DAY 12:  THEY MAKE JEALOUSY WORK FOR THEM. Many of us have heard the saying, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” And in actuality, it’s an act of violence. You may choose to believe that you are lacking, and that others are living amazingly abundant, kick-ass lives. But the truth is that you have no […]

DAY 11:  THEY ACCEPT THEIR FLAWS. It’s great to do your best, but if your happiness is dependent on specific outcomes, you’ll set yourself up for disappointment. Nothing is perfect, and it’s rare that things go entirely to plan. Sure, you want to conquer the world, but if you’re killing yourself in the process you […]

DAY 10:  THEY DON’T TRY TO FIX PEOPLE. Even if you could change others, you still wouldn’t be happy. Why? Because it’s less about fixing and more about feeling safe. Accept others for who they are, not who you’d like them to be. Change what you can control: you. Happy people adjust their expectations or let […]

DAY 9: THEY TAKE RESPONSIBILITY. Everything I blamed someone else for was my fault and everything I blamed myself for was someone else’s fault. . . No matter who’s at fault or who takes responsibility, you have the ability to change your situation. It’s easy to get caught in the “I wish things were different” […]

DAY 8: THEY DO THINGS THEY ACTUALLY WANT TO DO. If your social life is more exhausting than exciting, it may be time to re-evaluate your “obligations”. Sure, it may seem like you need to stop by your second cousin’s Christmas party. But if you aren’t making time for yourself, you’re likely to burn out […]

DAY 7: THEY ARE INTERDEPENDENT RATHER THAN CODEPENDENT If you rely on others for happiness, you’re blocking your ability to give it to yourself. Your relationships with others should mirror the happiness and love you have for yourself. Prioritizing yourself isn’t selfish. If you’ve ever put others first and then resented them for it, you […]

DAY 6: THEY STOP TRYING TO CONTROL EVERYTHING. While that deep need for control can keep us safe, it also can keep us stuck. Surrendering an outcome taught me that letting go of what I think I want (whether that be a guy or a job title) creates the space for bigger and better things […]

DAY 5: THEY FORGIVE THEIR PAST MISTAKES Sure, you’ve made mistakes. Lots of them. Hopefully, you learned from them. But if you’re still holding onto the pain and guilt instead of surrendering and forgiving yourself, it may be time to develop compassion. It can be painful and challenging, but it’s the first step to letting […]

DAY 4: THEY ACCEPT THAT FAILURE IS PART OF THE PROCESS. The fear of failure is nothing more than a desire to feel safe. But this kind of “safety” keeps us stagnant. We tend to forget that making a mistake doesn’t make you a “failure.” Seen differently, it’s nothing more than a learning experience. Next time […]

DAY 3 TO HAPPY: THEY GET THEIR _____ DONE. Identify the limiting belief that’s preventing you from taking action. Then, act “as if” you were the person taking action. Acknowledge your fear, but act anyway. Happy people take time to notice their track record of successes. Then, they recall that list to dispel fear around […]