DAY 8: THEY DO THINGS THEY ACTUALLY WANT TO DO.

If your social life is more exhausting than exciting, it may be time to re-evaluate your “obligations”. Sure, it may seem like you need to stop by your second cousin’s Christmas party. But if you aren’t making time for yourself, you’re likely to burn out faster than it takes you to down the eggnog. An hour with a negative person is more emotionally and physically exhausting than an hour on the treadmill.

Choose where to invest your energy. Still feel the pull of an obligation? Ask yourself, what would someone with self-compassion do in this situation? Happy people act “as if” they deserve greatness, and then truly own it once they’ve built the “I deserve greatness” muscle.